I've been searching for ways to heal myself, and I've found that kindness is the best way.
Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.
A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.
If you're helping someone and expecting something in return, you're doing business, not kindness.